Chores for Change?
Should you pay your kids to do chores?
Here are 3 reasons not to pay your kids for chores:
- It sends the wrong message. Daniel Pink, author of NY Times bestselling book “Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us” says that it converts a familial obligation into just another commercial transaction, and in the absence of said payment, no self-respecting kid would willingly do any of their regular chores. We want kids to contribute because they’re part of the family, not because they’ve been taught that the only reason to do a less than desirable task for the family is in exchange for money.
- It fosters an attitude of entitlement. When children are paid to make contributions around the house, it tells them that the action is revolved around them, and not around the well being of the family as a whole unit. In other words, when we pay kids to help out, we teach them to be an MVP, we don’t teach them about the value of teamwork.
- They’re gonna look for a raise! Well, wouldn’t you? Kids are smart, as they get older or the chores are increased in both quantity and difficulty.
(Read the full article here http://www.kidsrkids.com/expert-parent-advice/3-reasons-to-not-pay-for-chores)
Now we try to keep an open mind about all our topics and present two sides to every story, so here’s why some people do pay their kids for chores.
The logic behind tying allowances to chores is that since adults are paid to do their jobs, kids should be paid to dotheir jobs too- i.e. household chores. If they don’t do their jobs, children don’t get paid, therefore teaching them that a good work ethic shall be rewarded and that a bad work ethic will get you nothing. Some may say that paying kids for doing chores around the house is preparing them for the real world and life as an adult outside the family.
There are times when it would make sense to pay kids for chores. Most financial and child-development experts agree across the board that it’s a fine idea to pay children money for extra jobs that are outside their normal set of chores, such as washing windows, washing the car or helping to clean out the garage — especially if the child is saving for a big item.
Offering odd jobs that are outside the list of normal everyday must-do tasks can give opportunities for children and teens to earn a little more money aside from their regular allowance. This may even foster an entrepreneurial spirit to think outside of the box to earn money.
(See http://peaceinyourhome.com/should-parents-pay-kids-allowance-for-chores/ for full article.)
Do you pay your kids to do chores? Let us know!